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On Entitlement

“Entitlement” means “believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.” Often because of status, race, religion, gender, family background, etc.

This mindset of entitlement often makes a person in fact always in the mindset of “victim” or “princessy”, and this in fact weakens a person and never gets him/her to true success. An empowered person will go for their own goals and craft their own paths while taking actions on their own without expecting handouts or “grants” or gifts. So often I hear people say “if only I have money…then I will…”, or “I wish someone would give me________ so I can succeed” or “so and so never gives me_______, that’s why I cannot succeed” or “do they know who my father is…that is why I deserve to get …..” The feeling of entitlement in fact will ALWAYS make you feel insecure and inadequate and you will ALWAYS be a Victim. And you will feel without that name, title, family, race, husband, etc… will in fact be NOTHING. How dis-empowering!

So let us not be people who feel we should always get something more than others just because we feel entitled. So craft your own paths. Create your own money. Increase your own value by adding value to others. GIVE and you will RECEIVE. Live your life with LOVE & RESPECT instead of ENTITLEMENT. #murshidahsaid #murshidahsaidsharing #loveandrespect #spreadloveandrespect #empowerment #feminineleader


Add a comment July 21, 2020

So sad to see you drive a Kancil.

I remember someone once told me back in 2007,”I feel sad when I see such a nice and hardworking couple like you drive a Kancil”. I remember too being taken aback by the comment. The car we drove was a small rented one that time. It got us to places like Penang, Melaka, Trengganu, Kelantan, Johor or whenever I had a training job. We were so happy and the last thing I thought at that time was that it was not good enough. It was perfect for a small family like ours and suited our lifestyle and budget. I remember also since the RM2 to RM20,000 fiasco back in 2006, when we were scaling up our lifestyle and growing our training and speaking business from scratch,…that we were not in lack and everything felt sufficient. So when someone said that they feel sad to see us drive such a pathetic looking sized car, I also told myself at that time to not judge people based on what I see on the outside. True enough over the years, I have met people who live so lavishly and yet just complain of the lack of money all the time…. and I have met “very simple looking” aunties who do not hesitate to give thousands of dollars when they find out about a poor person in need. Let us also learn to refrain from giving unsolicited comments on things we do not fully understand about other people based on our own perspectives. Let’s respect one another. That is how we can all live with LOVE & RESPECT. #murshidahsaid #murshidahsaidsharing #murshidahsaidcoaching #loveandrespect #spreadloveandrespectIMG_20200712_072827_392

Add a comment July 11, 2020


When I work with professionals, business owners, corporate executives and even those from marginalised communities, I notice those who often succeed better and achieve their desired goals faster than others. They are the once who do not make excuses, complain about lack and expect others to give to them. They do not use excuses like “if only I had more money then I can…” or “I would love to but I don’t have the money”, or “I cannot go to the training because its too far…” I have noticed that there are some from the marginalised communities even find ways to raise funds for enough transport money to attend a class and do not make excuses. They learn and use the knowledge to apply and make consistent changes in their lives instead of bringing up all the reasons and obstacles of why they cannot. That I see the difference between those who will succeed and those who remain stuck in their lives. Lets live our lives with LOVE & RESPECT instead of making excuses of why we can’t. #murshidahsaid #murshidahsaidsharing #spreadloveandrespect #loveandrespectScreenshot_20200706_231447



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