Interesting that when a person blames something or someone, it is really a projection of the exact same trait that he or she possesses or is self conscious about. A person who feels worthless will constantly make fun of others. A domineering person will criticise another for being controlling. A person who suppresses his tears will make fun of others who cries or shows emotion. A person who feels guilt and shame will start accusing another for attacking or hurting them based on the very reason that he/she has unconsciously been suppressing. Be aware of the thoughts of blame, or anger or judgement of others. They are a reflection of your own anger of what is within you. Acknowledging, learning and accepting these prejudices and anger you have towards others is a step towards healing these issues that lie within yourself. As you acknowledge and work on them, you will feel more at peace and find yourself understanding people better. Spread LOVE & RESPECT ! Start with yourself !Image


1 comment March 25, 2014
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Jealous much ?

Seriously, there is no need for jealousy or envy towards others. Everyone has their own paths to lead. Be genuinely happy for others when they succeed. You will feel grateful and joyful, and in fact will attract more success into your life. There is no reason to put down another person or get upset when a person does well. In doing so, you have in fact shown your insecurities and raise old pains. Reflect on why you hurt so much when you see another person happy and start working on yourself. It is a sign of the lack of self worth and it shows that you really need to heal some wounds. Inhale deep gratitude. Release those demons. Spread LOVE & RESPECT. You will soon feel more LOVE & RESPECT.Image

Add a comment March 18, 2014
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Grateful to Give!

If you know the benefits of giving and gratitude, you would make it a daily goal to give with gratitude. A lot of people get upset and feel that they are always the ones giving and not getting anything in return. One of my wise mentors always reminds me to check my intentions first. Correct your intentions, you will reap what is in the laws of the universe. Give with conditions, you will get with conditions. So let us move away from the attitude of always thinking “what it is in it for me” to the attitude of “how can I be of value to others”. You will be amazed at the results you receive. So be aware of your intentions. Have an awesome weekend. So what are you doing to Spread LOVE & RESPECTImage

Add a comment March 16, 2014
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A couple of days ago I mentioned on my update on “HOW YOU DO ANYTHING IS HOW YOU DO EVERYTHING”. Be aware of how you conduct yourselves in all aspects of your life. The belief system of a person comes across through the words, actions and values at work and in their lives. A person who can lie to a client, can lie to you or a loved one. A person who gossips to you can gossip about you. A person who promises you that he/she will do something and never does, is someone who will constantly give excuses or lay blame. A judgmental person, will also judge you. A person who is never happy at others’ success, will find fault in everything that is positive and will steal dreams under the pretext of being “realistic”. Honesty, integrity, love, respect, commitment must be in all areas of lives – work and personal. HOW YOU ARE AT ANYTHING IS HOW YOU ARE AT EVERYTHING. May Allah guide me to constantly be aware of myself, my weaknesses and blindspots, and give me the strength to keep doing better and BEING a better person everyday so as to be able to keep spreading this message of LOVE & RESPECT. I pray the same for you.Image

Add a comment March 6, 2014
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Reflecting on incidents, experiences, encounters that happened in 2013, I realise that there are so many lessons in all the good, bad, positives and negatives. I mentioned before that I choose to spread LOVE & RESPECT because I know how it feels to be UNLOVED and DISRESPECTED. This year, I realized an unresolved deep rooted hate and anger that still has been residing within me after all these years. Through recognizing my perceptions and emotions, I have chosen to surface that negative belief, acknowledge it and release it. This year, moving forward, the work of LOVE & RESPECT continues and it will grow bigger and spread out wider. I look forward to working with more LOVE & RESPECT advocates and reaching out to the unloved. I will go on to make positive changes and transformation…advocating the message of LOVE & RESPECT. DOING MORE & SPREADING MORE. This time, I will take more along with me in this amazing journey. I invite you along with me and my work.  Have an awesome 2014. SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!

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Add a comment December 31, 2013
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Instead of complaining about others, negative situations and asking why are they like this that or the other, change your statement to how can this be changed. What can I do so that this situation will not happen in the future. How can I work on improving this ? Change your questions, change your mindset and emotion. More LOVE & RESPECT please. Go DO something positive.


Add a comment December 14, 2013

Reach out to the unLOVED and Hurting…

One of the messages I took away today is from one of the speakers who mentioned that we often complain about the problems of the youths, the parents, the media, the celebs as bad role models, the education system, the financial system, the abandoned babies, the drug addicts, the problem of the poor, the rich, the leaders, the followers, etc…but we do not reach out to these people and do something about it positively…In my work, I meet a lot of hurting people. Hurt people will hurt others including themselves. Why are we allowing this to prolong in our world ? When we just complain, ostracise them, point fingers, we prolong that hurt in our world. Let us heal ourselves daily with LOVE & GRATITUDE, release the hurt and anger daily, input POSITIVITY in our hearts and minds, and forgive. Then reach out and do something for others and help them heal. One step at a time. Everyone doing something good for others daily. We get to SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!street feeding 16

Add a comment November 2, 2013
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Who made you the judge ?

When we judge others, we are seeing things only from our own perspectives based on our own life experiences. If you find yourself criticising others for their lifestyles, behaviors, dressing, etc, it means you have to go over, extend your friendship and get to know them. When we judge, we create more walls instead of building bridges. If you want peace, BE peace. Spread LOVE & RESPECT!
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Add a comment October 1, 2013
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Can you help me ?

The last couple of days, I have encountered meetings with wonderful souls and have managed to read though some of your FB statuses. One of them that stood out was from Yasmin Ahmad who has to deal with people who say that they do not need to attend any of her training as they are already trainers and that they are the “Subject Matter Experts”. I too have met my share of people who say they know everything there is to know already. When people say that, it only shows that they are hiding behind a protective wall afraid to show that they are in fact NOT all that.

I get that we are a society that is built mainly on meritocracy. We have to be good or even great to stay ahead. We have been trained to say things that do not show any form of weakness. I notice however, that this has gotten deep into their subconscious and that people have generally become afraid to show their vulnerabilities and admit any form of weakness.

“Oh! I am a trainer, I do not need to attend any more training”… “I am the boss, I don’t need your opinions. What I say goes!”… “I am the teacher. What I teach is right, whatever you think otherwise is wrong”… “I am the parent…” well you get the idea. I love what Lavin Seow said over our lunch date, “It shows strength when you admit your weaknesses”.

Yes, trainers need to trained, teachers to be educated, coaches need coaching, and motivators need motivation too. We are all human. We are not perfect. I love that one of my friends who is an Ustaz (religious teacher) who shares with me that in his work, he reminds others to do Good and yet he has to fight his own demons sometimes. He says he is grateful that his wife is his constant reminder and companion who encourages and motivates him. Because of that too, he is reminded to not be judgmental and preachy to others.

We are not alone. We all have each other and all it takes is to ask for help and there are hands that are just waiting to reach out to give help.

I saw this happen in just a few days this week when Zeal Zainuddin and Sheik M James Splinter managed to raise money to help build more than 5 wells in Cambodia (so far), pay the salaries of teachers, buy books and clothe the toddlers who will otherwise run around naked because they don’t have money for clothes.

Let’s be a society of people full of compassion. People who raise each other up. People who are not afraid to ask for help. People who say its OK if we are not perfect. People who forgive. People who SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT.

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Add a comment September 27, 2013
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Girl! You MUST be tired !

So…Do I NOT get tired with all these activities like back to back training, travel, coaching, building entrepreneur hubs, taking care of family etc? I have often been asked this…and yes, I do feel overwhelmed sometimes. I have mentioned to some of my close friends that sometimes all I want is to just take a really long nap while someone gives me a full body massage until I am ready to get up. While I do make at least a day a month for a treat like this for ME (with the money from my PLAY jar), I have this constant yearn to connect with others. I started feeling this push ever since I made a commitment to live my life SPREADING LOVE & RESPECT.

This I feel the moment I step into a room where I am conducting a training for a roomful of people. I often sense the energy of hope, some anger, some frustration, some happiness and a mixture of all sorts of emotional energies from people with different life stories. I get excited when I feel transformation happening in the room when we start our lesson. It’s something I just cannot describe.

It’s a similar feeling when I travel. Those who knew me from long ago (as in before my marriage) would know that I like to travel alone or join a group I don’t really know. I learned to release some of my own deep set anger and self-esteem issues, get to know myself better, learn to LOVE me, and release my own prejudices when I stay with locals and get to know them better.

Connecting with people, getting to know them, learning about our human behavior and psyche makes me want to get my sometimes heavy behind out there to connect with more people. Travelling gets me to feel a different vibration and puts me in a different level of vibration and awareness. I love that my husband too has this LOVE for connecting with different people and communities. I find that when I am connecting with different people, I learn to LOVE my Creator even more and feel HIS LOVE for all of us.

So yes, even this motivator needs motivation sometimes. I am just grateful for the people I have chosen to surround myself with. People who step in at the right time to remind me of what I need to do. I will keep on doing this work as long as my BODY, MIND and HEART are all still in working conditions because this SPIRIT within me keeps telling me that this has been good so far and that I can always do better.

So whatever that “better” may be, I will continue to keep on connecting with others, spreading the LOVE & RESPECT, getting people to do the same for themselves and others, and while all in this sometimes chaotic and busy process, I get to know ME better. And I am falling in LOVE with me. Just as I LOVE the souls that I get to connect with in the process. We are all in this together. SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!

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