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Its the fault of the homeless, the poor, the women, the children, and the weak !

There has been a lot of negative emotions in the air lately with sad news of deaths of loved ones, and more news of people facing challenges in Ramadan (those near to us as well as in distant lands). We get news about killings of women and children in war zones and occupied territories, the poor and homeless being rejected and accused of laziness, and Samaritans who are threatened with persecution if caught giving help to others. My family and I too have been receiving our fair share of some sad news and challenges. How do I keep looking up when gloom appears to be everywhere ?
1. Be grateful. With whatever we have, always believe its more than enough. I believe there are people who love me even when sometimes I do feel lonely. I believe that something better will always come even when I lose something. And being grateful never disappoints.
2. Forgive everything and everyone. I do have my share of anger and frustration with leadership. How some people lead countries and the world and create anger, delusion and chaos rather than LOVE and PURPOSE. Often too, we see things from our perspectives and get upset with those who deal differently from our way of thinking. It is hard but I do make an effort to forgive and pray for them.
3. GIVE. Keep on giving and looking for various ways to give. I learned that giving charity and doing work where the intention of GIVING is set, I am at peace and my relationships and finances actually improve.
4, Be solutions focused. With all these problems happening in the world, let us reflect the root cause. What CAN I DO so that these problems will not happen in the future.

These questions and actions lead to your purpose. Some of you have asked me via FB, whatsapp and phone calls about my perspective on the feeding of the homeless and the poor and what I think about the ban and fine imposed, I stick to what is TRUTH and focus on my intention on the GIVING. This message in the Quran is my reminder as it has been prophesied that what is good will be stopped and what is bad will be allowed in the end of times. We have already expected this but we need to know which side we must remain. “Have you seen him who denies the Recompense? That is he who repulses the orphan (harshly) , and urges not on the feeding of al-Miskeen the poor” (Al-Quran 107:1-3)

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Add a comment July 10, 2014

Grateful to Give!

If you know the benefits of giving and gratitude, you would make it a daily goal to give with gratitude. A lot of people get upset and feel that they are always the ones giving and not getting anything in return. One of my wise mentors always reminds me to check my intentions first. Correct your intentions, you will reap what is in the laws of the universe. Give with conditions, you will get with conditions. So let us move away from the attitude of always thinking “what it is in it for me” to the attitude of “how can I be of value to others”. You will be amazed at the results you receive. So be aware of your intentions. Have an awesome weekend. So what are you doing to Spread LOVE & RESPECTImage

Add a comment March 16, 2014


Reflecting on incidents, experiences, encounters that happened in 2013, I realise that there are so many lessons in all the good, bad, positives and negatives. I mentioned before that I choose to spread LOVE & RESPECT because I know how it feels to be UNLOVED and DISRESPECTED. This year, I realized an unresolved deep rooted hate and anger that still has been residing within me after all these years. Through recognizing my perceptions and emotions, I have chosen to surface that negative belief, acknowledge it and release it. This year, moving forward, the work of LOVE & RESPECT continues and it will grow bigger and spread out wider. I look forward to working with more LOVE & RESPECT advocates and reaching out to the unloved. I will go on to make positive changes and transformation…advocating the message of LOVE & RESPECT. DOING MORE & SPREADING MORE. This time, I will take more along with me in this amazing journey. I invite you along with me and my work.  Have an awesome 2014. SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!

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Add a comment December 31, 2013

Reach out to the unLOVED and Hurting…

One of the messages I took away today is from one of the speakers who mentioned that we often complain about the problems of the youths, the parents, the media, the celebs as bad role models, the education system, the financial system, the abandoned babies, the drug addicts, the problem of the poor, the rich, the leaders, the followers, etc…but we do not reach out to these people and do something about it positively…In my work, I meet a lot of hurting people. Hurt people will hurt others including themselves. Why are we allowing this to prolong in our world ? When we just complain, ostracise them, point fingers, we prolong that hurt in our world. Let us heal ourselves daily with LOVE & GRATITUDE, release the hurt and anger daily, input POSITIVITY in our hearts and minds, and forgive. Then reach out and do something for others and help them heal. One step at a time. Everyone doing something good for others daily. We get to SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!street feeding 16

Add a comment November 2, 2013

Who made you the judge ?

When we judge others, we are seeing things only from our own perspectives based on our own life experiences. If you find yourself criticising others for their lifestyles, behaviors, dressing, etc, it means you have to go over, extend your friendship and get to know them. When we judge, we create more walls instead of building bridges. If you want peace, BE peace. Spread LOVE & RESPECT!
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Add a comment October 1, 2013

Can you help me ?

The last couple of days, I have encountered meetings with wonderful souls and have managed to read though some of your FB statuses. One of them that stood out was from Yasmin Ahmad who has to deal with people who say that they do not need to attend any of her training as they are already trainers and that they are the “Subject Matter Experts”. I too have met my share of people who say they know everything there is to know already. When people say that, it only shows that they are hiding behind a protective wall afraid to show that they are in fact NOT all that.

I get that we are a society that is built mainly on meritocracy. We have to be good or even great to stay ahead. We have been trained to say things that do not show any form of weakness. I notice however, that this has gotten deep into their subconscious and that people have generally become afraid to show their vulnerabilities and admit any form of weakness.

“Oh! I am a trainer, I do not need to attend any more training”… “I am the boss, I don’t need your opinions. What I say goes!”… “I am the teacher. What I teach is right, whatever you think otherwise is wrong”… “I am the parent…” well you get the idea. I love what Lavin Seow said over our lunch date, “It shows strength when you admit your weaknesses”.

Yes, trainers need to trained, teachers to be educated, coaches need coaching, and motivators need motivation too. We are all human. We are not perfect. I love that one of my friends who is an Ustaz (religious teacher) who shares with me that in his work, he reminds others to do Good and yet he has to fight his own demons sometimes. He says he is grateful that his wife is his constant reminder and companion who encourages and motivates him. Because of that too, he is reminded to not be judgmental and preachy to others.

We are not alone. We all have each other and all it takes is to ask for help and there are hands that are just waiting to reach out to give help.

I saw this happen in just a few days this week when Zeal Zainuddin and Sheik M James Splinter managed to raise money to help build more than 5 wells in Cambodia (so far), pay the salaries of teachers, buy books and clothe the toddlers who will otherwise run around naked because they don’t have money for clothes.

Let’s be a society of people full of compassion. People who raise each other up. People who are not afraid to ask for help. People who say its OK if we are not perfect. People who forgive. People who SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT.

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Add a comment September 27, 2013

Girl! You MUST be tired !

So…Do I NOT get tired with all these activities like back to back training, travel, coaching, building entrepreneur hubs, taking care of family etc? I have often been asked this…and yes, I do feel overwhelmed sometimes. I have mentioned to some of my close friends that sometimes all I want is to just take a really long nap while someone gives me a full body massage until I am ready to get up. While I do make at least a day a month for a treat like this for ME (with the money from my PLAY jar), I have this constant yearn to connect with others. I started feeling this push ever since I made a commitment to live my life SPREADING LOVE & RESPECT.

This I feel the moment I step into a room where I am conducting a training for a roomful of people. I often sense the energy of hope, some anger, some frustration, some happiness and a mixture of all sorts of emotional energies from people with different life stories. I get excited when I feel transformation happening in the room when we start our lesson. It’s something I just cannot describe.

It’s a similar feeling when I travel. Those who knew me from long ago (as in before my marriage) would know that I like to travel alone or join a group I don’t really know. I learned to release some of my own deep set anger and self-esteem issues, get to know myself better, learn to LOVE me, and release my own prejudices when I stay with locals and get to know them better.

Connecting with people, getting to know them, learning about our human behavior and psyche makes me want to get my sometimes heavy behind out there to connect with more people. Travelling gets me to feel a different vibration and puts me in a different level of vibration and awareness. I love that my husband too has this LOVE for connecting with different people and communities. I find that when I am connecting with different people, I learn to LOVE my Creator even more and feel HIS LOVE for all of us.

So yes, even this motivator needs motivation sometimes. I am just grateful for the people I have chosen to surround myself with. People who step in at the right time to remind me of what I need to do. I will keep on doing this work as long as my BODY, MIND and HEART are all still in working conditions because this SPIRIT within me keeps telling me that this has been good so far and that I can always do better.

So whatever that “better” may be, I will continue to keep on connecting with others, spreading the LOVE & RESPECT, getting people to do the same for themselves and others, and while all in this sometimes chaotic and busy process, I get to know ME better. And I am falling in LOVE with me. Just as I LOVE the souls that I get to connect with in the process. We are all in this together. SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!

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Add a comment September 24, 2013

Dear Scriptwriters….

With all the activities and visitations still surrounding Eid/Raya festivities in this part of the world, I can’t help but also notice the films and dramas showing on TV. I notice a pattern in most of the story lines. The people who are poor are always good and the wealthy are always mean and heartless to others. This reminds me of the time when shows always portray stepmothers as mean and abusive and for sometime, people do have a stereotyped image of the “other woman” or “the new mother”. Knowing the power of subconscious, I hope scriptwriters start to think of what they would like the world to be in and start portraying “positive possibilities” instead of just problems for the sake of drama.

I know some of the writers have good intentions in what they want to say through the film or the stories, but when the message is repetitive, these form the belief systems of the society. How many of us feel that Muslims (and especially Muslim women) are often portrayed wrongly in other medias. We get offended and upset. Some even become apologetic or refuse to be seen as “too Muslim” when there are more wonderful people of the faith that are not seen by others. This is the power of the media’s influence.

So let us portray more positive messages of the good people in our community in the media. I know so many wealthy people who are doing good work but when the shows on TV portray the wealthy as always being snobby, then at an unconscious level, most people are afraid to be wealthy or will always criticise the wealthy….or sabotage themselves to remain in “status quo”…all done unconsciously.

Besides, wealth..there are just too many predictable love stories showing differences in wealth and status between the man and the woman and their challenges. One blockbuster movie about this is enough. How about showing the women who succeed in business, supporting their own families and marrying younger men ? …In the meantime, I will root for the grandmothers in films and hope someone will write a story about an empowered grandmother who is not just old, helpless or the “adviser”. Spread LOVE & RESPECT in society through films!

Add a comment August 29, 2013

Giving and Receiving with GRATITUDE

When you give – whether the giving is a donation, a charity, a birthday present, a referral, a treat, LOVE or any other forms of giving – be sure to notice your state of emotions and energy. Do not give while in a state of negativity. Do not give with the intention of fulfilling your ego and pride. Do not give too because you feel pity. Energy is transferable and it affects YOU and your life. Let us practice the habit of giving and receiving with GRATITUDE. Be GRATEFUL that you CAN give and that you are able to be of service. When receiving too, be GRATEFUL that you can receive and accept the act of LOVE. Lets remove that feeling of giving out of obligation, pity, or guilt. Let us just BE GRATEFUL. Ramadan Mubarak. Have a wonderful Friday evening, morning, afternoon wherever you are. Spread LOVE & RESPECT!


Add a comment August 3, 2013

Aren’t there any people YOU can help here ? Why go so far ?

I have had several comments like this so I am addressing this now. “Why do you have to go to Cambodia to help people when there are so many people having problems here in Malaysia ? Why not help Malaysians first ?”…well if you know of anyone who is in poverty and starving, PLEASE help them first asap! Do not wait for others to do something or complain about why other people like the leaders, government, their parents, etc are not helping those in need. For us, we had access and information about the folks and went there based on what we are capable of. We are private individuals, no deep pockets, but full of gratitude that we can do something in our own efforts. If we cannot be there physically , we will pray for those in need. Come on. Let us ALL take responsibility. NO blaming, justifying, criticising…Take INSPIRED ACTION. Do not question those who went out to help those in Gaza, Syria, Africa…They have access to go there to help so pray for them and send blessings. If you know anyone in your vicinity who is starving, in danger, etc go to them or take leadership to do something for them. Please…snide comments only indicate an unconscious guilt and a limiting belief that needs to be addressed. Be conscious, aware and be at peace…Ramadan Mubarak. Seek blessings from our Al-Mighty. SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT !


Add a comment July 29, 2013






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