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You are not worth looking at


After a series of non-stop work, training, learning and giving efforts, (and still my diary shows there are a lot more in store!), I just woke up from a long nap due to exhaustion. Sorry if I missed your calls and have delayed replying messages. Thank you to all the congratulatory messages of my 10 year business anniversary this April month for the M & Z Empowerment training business. Time flies! I am reading through some messages in my inbox and I had some people asking why I have been posting only pictures lately and asking for my usual sharing of motivation and reflections. 

OK, I will share first on last Sunday’s streetfeeding experience. While we had our volunteers split up to distribute foods to various locations, Zeal Zainuddin and I took charge of taking care of the rest of the remaining foodstuff. We had some of the homeless people come over to pick up the foods. One lady came over when no one else was around and spent some time to talk and share her life story and opened her heart out to both of us. After reflecting on the incident, Zeal and I discussed about how people generally just want to be LOVED & RESPECTED. By the simple act of us regularly visiting, making eye contact and acknowledging the people who otherwise in their lives often feel unloved, we get connected. They have a sense of hope and worth. There are no walls built regarding status, or worldly titles that often place one person’s life higher than another. Unfortunately, I see this even in families where due to some level of “success”, one person is deemed more worthy than others. Guests with a certain “status” are given better treatment than others. Clients with more money are given more respect. Let us all reflect on this a little deeper. Why does this belief happen? What led to these beliefs that cause people to step on the weak? Do these beliefs serve a higher purpose? What can we do to change these?…Sleep well everyone. Spread LOVE & RESPECT.


Add a comment May 11, 2014


Interesting that when a person blames something or someone, it is really a projection of the exact same trait that he or she possesses or is self conscious about. A person who feels worthless will constantly make fun of others. A domineering person will criticise another for being controlling. A person who suppresses his tears will make fun of others who cries or shows emotion. A person who feels guilt and shame will start accusing another for attacking or hurting them based on the very reason that he/she has unconsciously been suppressing. Be aware of the thoughts of blame, or anger or judgement of others. They are a reflection of your own anger of what is within you. Acknowledging, learning and accepting these prejudices and anger you have towards others is a step towards healing these issues that lie within yourself. As you acknowledge and work on them, you will feel more at peace and find yourself understanding people better. Spread LOVE & RESPECT ! Start with yourself !Image

1 comment March 25, 2014

Jealous much ?

Seriously, there is no need for jealousy or envy towards others. Everyone has their own paths to lead. Be genuinely happy for others when they succeed. You will feel grateful and joyful, and in fact will attract more success into your life. There is no reason to put down another person or get upset when a person does well. In doing so, you have in fact shown your insecurities and raise old pains. Reflect on why you hurt so much when you see another person happy and start working on yourself. It is a sign of the lack of self worth and it shows that you really need to heal some wounds. Inhale deep gratitude. Release those demons. Spread LOVE & RESPECT. You will soon feel more LOVE & RESPECT.Image

Add a comment March 18, 2014

Reach out to the unLOVED and Hurting…

One of the messages I took away today is from one of the speakers who mentioned that we often complain about the problems of the youths, the parents, the media, the celebs as bad role models, the education system, the financial system, the abandoned babies, the drug addicts, the problem of the poor, the rich, the leaders, the followers, etc…but we do not reach out to these people and do something about it positively…In my work, I meet a lot of hurting people. Hurt people will hurt others including themselves. Why are we allowing this to prolong in our world ? When we just complain, ostracise them, point fingers, we prolong that hurt in our world. Let us heal ourselves daily with LOVE & GRATITUDE, release the hurt and anger daily, input POSITIVITY in our hearts and minds, and forgive. Then reach out and do something for others and help them heal. One step at a time. Everyone doing something good for others daily. We get to SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!street feeding 16

Add a comment November 2, 2013

Who made you the judge ?

When we judge others, we are seeing things only from our own perspectives based on our own life experiences. If you find yourself criticising others for their lifestyles, behaviors, dressing, etc, it means you have to go over, extend your friendship and get to know them. When we judge, we create more walls instead of building bridges. If you want peace, BE peace. Spread LOVE & RESPECT!
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Add a comment October 1, 2013

Can you help me ?

The last couple of days, I have encountered meetings with wonderful souls and have managed to read though some of your FB statuses. One of them that stood out was from Yasmin Ahmad who has to deal with people who say that they do not need to attend any of her training as they are already trainers and that they are the “Subject Matter Experts”. I too have met my share of people who say they know everything there is to know already. When people say that, it only shows that they are hiding behind a protective wall afraid to show that they are in fact NOT all that.

I get that we are a society that is built mainly on meritocracy. We have to be good or even great to stay ahead. We have been trained to say things that do not show any form of weakness. I notice however, that this has gotten deep into their subconscious and that people have generally become afraid to show their vulnerabilities and admit any form of weakness.

“Oh! I am a trainer, I do not need to attend any more training”… “I am the boss, I don’t need your opinions. What I say goes!”… “I am the teacher. What I teach is right, whatever you think otherwise is wrong”… “I am the parent…” well you get the idea. I love what Lavin Seow said over our lunch date, “It shows strength when you admit your weaknesses”.

Yes, trainers need to trained, teachers to be educated, coaches need coaching, and motivators need motivation too. We are all human. We are not perfect. I love that one of my friends who is an Ustaz (religious teacher) who shares with me that in his work, he reminds others to do Good and yet he has to fight his own demons sometimes. He says he is grateful that his wife is his constant reminder and companion who encourages and motivates him. Because of that too, he is reminded to not be judgmental and preachy to others.

We are not alone. We all have each other and all it takes is to ask for help and there are hands that are just waiting to reach out to give help.

I saw this happen in just a few days this week when Zeal Zainuddin and Sheik M James Splinter managed to raise money to help build more than 5 wells in Cambodia (so far), pay the salaries of teachers, buy books and clothe the toddlers who will otherwise run around naked because they don’t have money for clothes.

Let’s be a society of people full of compassion. People who raise each other up. People who are not afraid to ask for help. People who say its OK if we are not perfect. People who forgive. People who SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT.

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Add a comment September 27, 2013

Girl! You MUST be tired !

So…Do I NOT get tired with all these activities like back to back training, travel, coaching, building entrepreneur hubs, taking care of family etc? I have often been asked this…and yes, I do feel overwhelmed sometimes. I have mentioned to some of my close friends that sometimes all I want is to just take a really long nap while someone gives me a full body massage until I am ready to get up. While I do make at least a day a month for a treat like this for ME (with the money from my PLAY jar), I have this constant yearn to connect with others. I started feeling this push ever since I made a commitment to live my life SPREADING LOVE & RESPECT.

This I feel the moment I step into a room where I am conducting a training for a roomful of people. I often sense the energy of hope, some anger, some frustration, some happiness and a mixture of all sorts of emotional energies from people with different life stories. I get excited when I feel transformation happening in the room when we start our lesson. It’s something I just cannot describe.

It’s a similar feeling when I travel. Those who knew me from long ago (as in before my marriage) would know that I like to travel alone or join a group I don’t really know. I learned to release some of my own deep set anger and self-esteem issues, get to know myself better, learn to LOVE me, and release my own prejudices when I stay with locals and get to know them better.

Connecting with people, getting to know them, learning about our human behavior and psyche makes me want to get my sometimes heavy behind out there to connect with more people. Travelling gets me to feel a different vibration and puts me in a different level of vibration and awareness. I love that my husband too has this LOVE for connecting with different people and communities. I find that when I am connecting with different people, I learn to LOVE my Creator even more and feel HIS LOVE for all of us.

So yes, even this motivator needs motivation sometimes. I am just grateful for the people I have chosen to surround myself with. People who step in at the right time to remind me of what I need to do. I will keep on doing this work as long as my BODY, MIND and HEART are all still in working conditions because this SPIRIT within me keeps telling me that this has been good so far and that I can always do better.

So whatever that “better” may be, I will continue to keep on connecting with others, spreading the LOVE & RESPECT, getting people to do the same for themselves and others, and while all in this sometimes chaotic and busy process, I get to know ME better. And I am falling in LOVE with me. Just as I LOVE the souls that I get to connect with in the process. We are all in this together. SPREAD LOVE & RESPECT!

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Add a comment September 24, 2013

Dear Scriptwriters….

With all the activities and visitations still surrounding Eid/Raya festivities in this part of the world, I can’t help but also notice the films and dramas showing on TV. I notice a pattern in most of the story lines. The people who are poor are always good and the wealthy are always mean and heartless to others. This reminds me of the time when shows always portray stepmothers as mean and abusive and for sometime, people do have a stereotyped image of the “other woman” or “the new mother”. Knowing the power of subconscious, I hope scriptwriters start to think of what they would like the world to be in and start portraying “positive possibilities” instead of just problems for the sake of drama.

I know some of the writers have good intentions in what they want to say through the film or the stories, but when the message is repetitive, these form the belief systems of the society. How many of us feel that Muslims (and especially Muslim women) are often portrayed wrongly in other medias. We get offended and upset. Some even become apologetic or refuse to be seen as “too Muslim” when there are more wonderful people of the faith that are not seen by others. This is the power of the media’s influence.

So let us portray more positive messages of the good people in our community in the media. I know so many wealthy people who are doing good work but when the shows on TV portray the wealthy as always being snobby, then at an unconscious level, most people are afraid to be wealthy or will always criticise the wealthy….or sabotage themselves to remain in “status quo”…all done unconsciously.

Besides, wealth..there are just too many predictable love stories showing differences in wealth and status between the man and the woman and their challenges. One blockbuster movie about this is enough. How about showing the women who succeed in business, supporting their own families and marrying younger men ? …In the meantime, I will root for the grandmothers in films and hope someone will write a story about an empowered grandmother who is not just old, helpless or the “adviser”. Spread LOVE & RESPECT in society through films!

Add a comment August 29, 2013

Giving and Receiving with GRATITUDE

When you give – whether the giving is a donation, a charity, a birthday present, a referral, a treat, LOVE or any other forms of giving – be sure to notice your state of emotions and energy. Do not give while in a state of negativity. Do not give with the intention of fulfilling your ego and pride. Do not give too because you feel pity. Energy is transferable and it affects YOU and your life. Let us practice the habit of giving and receiving with GRATITUDE. Be GRATEFUL that you CAN give and that you are able to be of service. When receiving too, be GRATEFUL that you can receive and accept the act of LOVE. Lets remove that feeling of giving out of obligation, pity, or guilt. Let us just BE GRATEFUL. Ramadan Mubarak. Have a wonderful Friday evening, morning, afternoon wherever you are. Spread LOVE & RESPECT!


Add a comment August 3, 2013


Interesting that I learned about the Law of Scarcity in Economics and not the Law of Abundance. Law of Scarcity and the scarcity mindset has a tendency to create unhealthy competition, jealousy, wanting to beat others in all areas of life – personal and business. (You know…that “kiasu” mentality). Economic focus should be on the Law of Abundance – collaboration, creativity, having a giving attitude and LOVE & RESPECT. That is when sustainability happens, poverty reduced and the value of money equitable throughout the world. In the meantime, make sure our kids know the importance of values and mindsets that generate hope and creativity, adding value instead of fear. What they learn in books may not be relevant to their success in life. Parents be educated. Teachers watch the values you instill in your students. Let us all develop ABUNDANCE mindsets. ‪#‎spreadloveandrespect‬


Add a comment July 22, 2013






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